Welcome To Our Crazy Life
We are the Colls and this is about our life with our triplets. My name is Sandi and my husband's name is Kevin. We got married on Feb. 7, 2004 and instantly started trying to have a baby. 5 years, many tears and loads of help later we found out we were having not one, not two, but three babies!
Braedan, Teagan and Sean bounced into our lives on Nov. 12, 2008 and everything has been turned upside down, flipped sideways and scattered about since then. I’m not going to sugar coat it....it wasn’t easy in the beginning. The NICU, late nights, screaming babies, being thousands of miles from our families because we were stationed in Hawaii, exhaustion and then Kevin deploying to Afghanistan for 6 months the day the kids turned 6 months old......not fun.
But now they are getting older and Kevin has been medically separated from the Marine Corps and we've moved to NY to be closer to family. It's great to finally have family around...... especially now that we've hit the TERRIBLE TWOS triple time!
Even though we are close to family now, we are still learning to survive life with triplets.
Friday, July 8, 2011
We had his hearing checked here in NY by the Rochester Hearing and Speech center which is partnered with the Rochester School for the Deaf. Kevin was unable to come to the appointment with me because he has just begun working.
The news I received was devastating to a mother. Sean has now been classified as legally deaf. His hearing in his right ear is measured as severe to profound and his left ear is not 100% as we were told in HI. His left ear measures moderate to severe. Sean will need hearing aids for the rest of his life.
The rest of his life. The. Rest. Of. His. Life.
I can still hear those words echoing in my head. I can sit here and recall everything going dark as the specialist told me this. Not my kid. Not my Seany. No. This isn't happening. It can't be. They have to be wrong. She's lying. Why is she lying. Hawaii said he was fine. Why is she lying. Sandi, you knew something wasn't right, that's why we are here, why are you fighting this???? BECAUSE HE'S MY LITTLE SEANY BUG!!!!!!
I remember going over the different aid options, scooping up my baby and leaving the office. We walked down the hall as several pre-k kids filed into the cafeteria for The Rochester School For The Deaf Pre-K graduation. Sean said hi to each kid. It broke my heart. If he can talk, if he can hear, why are they suggesting that he not go to school with the other two and attend this school? He can hear! He can talk!
My greatest fear has ALWAYS been that one of them would be held back in school or something. They can't! They are triplets. I don't ever want any of them to feel different. They can't!
I called my husband in a panic as I sat in the parking lot (Sean was watching Nemo, his favorite DVD) and I cried my eyes out. My voice caught in my throat as I tried to choke out the words, "legally deaf, hearing aids for life." Kevin broke. He had all of the same questions I did. I couldn't talk to him anymore.
I called my mom. She's always been able to try to calm my fears and rationalize. (*Thanks mom!) What she said made sense. Yes, I do want him to get the best care out there. Yes, I want that care so he can function in society and thrive. BUT HE'S MY BABY! HE CAN'T BE DEAF! My mom cried with me.
I called my mother in law. She cried with me.
I cried alone. I cried until my husband came home. Not our baby.
I still cry when one of the specialist call to set up an appointment for him.
I still cry when his school calls to talk about new therapy.
I still cry when I'm all alone and start thinking about it.
I don't want him to be different. I don't want him to be picked on. Kids are cruel.
Yes, I know the aids are the best thing for him and yes, I've listened to the experts and made every appointment possible. But I am still mourning this....the loss of my child's hearing. I feel guilty. The Drs here said if he was born here there is no way they would have let him go this long without aids. They said he would have been wearing them since birth. I am angry at Hawaii. I am angry that he has to go through this. Is this my fault? He was a preemie. I took meds to stop contractions so many times, but I had to or they would have been born so much earlier.
I pray. I ask God to watch over my baby. I ask him to continue to bless him. I ask God to help me find peace...it could be so much worse. And I am thankful that it's just hearing.....
We wait. We wait to get fitted for the aids in the next 2 weeks.....
*thanks for letting me rant*
On July 3rd we started the day by picking up some Dunkin Donuts and heading out to Letchworth State Park. The kids had a blast playing on one of their favorite playgrounds and then we took them to see some of the waterfalls.
|He tried it and liked it|
|Kevin was VERY careful when letting Sean play with a Sparkler|
Thursday, July 7, 2011
One day we stopped for some gas and Kevin noticed a sign at a Vet's office for free kittens. A week later we picked up our new kitten KitKat. A week after that we went back for vaccinations and found out that the last kitten had never been adopted....so we went home as owners of 2 kittens.
Welcome KitKat and Twix.
We found a Pick Your Own Strawberry Field and had a blast with the kids!
We've been going to different parks on the weekends and some nights when Kevin gets home from work. The kids LOVE playgrounds. It's amazing to us how much they have grown. They now are able to play on the "big kid" playgrounds and they just have so much fun....especially when the ice cream truck comes by!
Father's Day was a lot of fun! I made a Father's Day cake for Kevin and his dad as well as Kevin's favorite Pink Lemonade cupcakes!
|While everyone was outside Teagan went missing. When I looked inside from the porch I saw this: Teagan, with a fork, digging into the Father's Day Cake hahaha|
Also, in June we took the kids to their first movie, Cars 2, and it happened to be at the Drive-In!!!